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The pattern triggers the secondary event of “guilting.” It usually occurs as a result of Pattern #4 (“Superior Knowledge”) where The Right Man claims to be doing an action for the sake of another person. The action may be unnecessary or undesired, it may even annoy the person for whom the action is being done, but the recipient must be display an overt sign of gratitude to avoid punishment with guilt, depression, or aggression.

One example that springs to mind is of the wife who was saving to buy herself a car – she wished to gain her own means of transport and independence. The second hand car she wanted was an estate car that meant that she could take the children and friends out and about.

Just before she bought the car, she arrived home to find a brand new, small, bright green “city” car sat on the drive. Knowing of her intentions, the husband has bought it for her. It stood out, was smaller than she wanted and was more expensive than she and her husband could actually afford.

In short he bought her a bright green emotionally charged white elephant.